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Posted 26 February 2010 - 02:51 AM

I am 26 years old and 100% straight. I love women, only want to be in a relationship with a woman, and dont find men attractive. However, I have been really curious about giving a hand job. I have been curious long enough to want to try it at some point. I tried to post on craigslist, but even when I found someone half way normal, I got scared off by the thought of being lured into a bad situation. Has anyone else been in my situation? I really dont know know where to turn.




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Posted 26 February 2010 - 06:12 AM

Ever tried getting a friend drunk and trying to do it to him. Maybe find a guy at the gym. I don't think too many men will mind a simple handjob. Who knows, I may be wrong since I've never tried it. Craigslist is kind of weird.

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Posted 26 February 2010 - 06:16 AM

Hey there xtr5 and welcome to our community.

The reaction of getting cold feet is more common than you may think...just as it's also fairly common for guys to experience guilt after they've masturbated to gay porn. We don't always realise just how big a step it is, to have sex with a guy (in some way or form). There's the need for us to be emotionally prepared for it, not only because we're entering unchartered territory but also because we're having to deal with societal conditioning like homophobia etc. There's nothing wrong with how things played out for you. It merely was an indication of how you still aren't ready to take that step. Just take your time and when you're ready, you will know.

All of the best!

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Posted 26 February 2010 - 10:26 AM

View Postxtr5, on Feb 26 2010, 04:51 AM, said:

I am 26 years old and 100% straight. I love women, only want to be in a relationship with a woman, and dont find men attractive. However, I have been really curious about giving a hand job. I have been curious long enough to want to try it at some point. I tried to post on craigslist, but even when I found someone half way normal, I got scared off by the thought of being lured into a bad situation. Has anyone else been in my situation? I really dont know know where to turn.


Last week, received my first HJ from a man in a sauna which is not a gay sauna. This is also the reason why I came to this forum. I haven't really defined myself as Bi before. Though I got turned on by mature white guys when I am watching str8 porns. I am pretty sure I am not gay since I like woman and can never accept male genital in my rear body. However, the mature guy turned-on thing does bother me sometimes.

At the time when I was in the steamroom, there are only two people including me. The other guy next to me happened to be a chubby white 40s or sth who also worn glasses. Of course, he didn't wear glass in the steamroom. He just put the glasses aside. I saw him with glasses outside the steamroom. That gave sorta nerdy feelings which I liked. I saw him started to touch his penis but try to ignore that at first. Later, I can't help to peek at his movements (He's bit behind me so I don't really know if he noticed that I was peeking). My heart was beating like hell.

After a couple minutes, I asked myself, do I wanna join him? If this is any other type of guy, I don't think the answer will be yes. However, he happened to be the kind of guys I have the turned-on issue. At that time, I can literally feel my heart pounding. One or two mins later, I decided to move to him and asked "are you touching yourself". He smiled and asked "yours". Right after that, he put his hand on my penis and started to stroke. Later, I also asked him to give me a BJ and he did for a min or two. I didn't really cum since someone else poped in the steam room.

It was so hot there and I am so nervous, some of the details might be wrong due to my messed memories. After that, I started to ask myself am I really Bi or just because I am horny at that time since I haven't had sex for a long time. I started to my little research about Bi and then come to this forum.

Edited by ETW, 26 February 2010 - 10:30 AM.


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Posted 27 February 2010 - 01:35 AM

I'm curous too about mutual masturbation. My perception of guys masturbating goes back to my teenage years and I've always envisioned guys as 'getting to the big O' as fast as they can. However, I'm sure that'snot the case and would love to experience other guys techniques.

Don't be in any hurry though. It'll work out one way or the other and safe than sorry is a "true" statement.

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Posted 27 February 2010 - 03:40 PM

A mutual HJ sounds great right now! Have experienced it once in my adulthood and it was hot. I've jacked alongside other guys during some group experiences and loved watching them stroke their hard shiny cocks.

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Posted 27 February 2010 - 09:38 PM

This is a very good and helpful forum, almost the best source I can find on internet.

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Posted 10 March 2010 - 12:44 AM

thanks for the replies so far. I do't think I would be cool with trying it on a friend or a random person. I would kind of want both parties to go into the situation knowing what to expect. Is there some kind of non sketchy version of craigslist or someway to find a guy in a similar situation?

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Posted 10 April 2014 - 11:33 AM

View Postxtr5, on 26 February 2010 - 02:51 AM, said:

I am 26 years old and 100% straight. I love women, only want to be in a relationship with a woman, and dont find men attractive. However, I have been really curious about giving a hand job. I have been curious long enough to want to try it at some point. I tried to post on craigslist, but even when I found someone half way normal, I got scared off by the thought of being lured into a bad situation. Has anyone else been in my situation? I really dont know know where to turn.
ill jerk you off (;

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Posted 15 April 2014 - 01:54 PM

There are really great guys here and lots of good advice or just an ear to listen to your thoughts. Spend some time here and you may start to feel comfortable. What you think or feel about mutual is not "bad" or "wrong". Many others share the same thoughts, feelings, fantasies. Sharing in this forum is a great way to sort things out and relax your mind.



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